How Do I Communicate Appreciation to My Boss?
Many employees, and even supervisors, have concerns about communicating appreciation to their boss or those higher up in the organization – mainly for fear of looking like they are trying win favor or look good. While showing appreciation can be utilized in this way, most employees need not be concerned. Why? Because, over time, one’s true colors and intent will become evident.
The key questions for employees are: 1) Should I do something for my boss? 2) If so, what? 3) How do I keep from looking like I am just sucking up to them?
Let us give you a quick way to think through these decisions.
- It would be good to do something for your boss if you do appreciate something about them, and/or if you want to improve your relationship with them. If there is nothing you like about your boss or if you are in the midst of major conflict, pass. It is better to do nothing than to go through the motions and try to fake it.
- What should you do? It is largely up to you. What would feel genuine coming from you? How much time, energy or money do you want to invest in the process? Generally, it is better to do a little something that is meaningful (either to you, or to them) than to do some action that looks like it is for show. Most people value an action that seems to have taken some time and thought and has to do with them personally.
- How to not look like you are just trying to impress them. Take some time and identify either: a) a character quality you value that you see in your boss; b) an action they completed that impacted you positively; or c) something about your boss that you respect. Then get a card, make a card, get a small gift of something they like and attach a card – and just tell them thanks for … a, b or c above. It doesn’t have to be long, life-changing, or super fancy (your writing should be legible – especially your signature).
Finally, do not, under any circumstances, make a reference (even in joking) to “don’t forget me at bonus time” or something equally offensive. This is about your appreciation for them, not about getting a payback at some point in the future. Remember, bosses are people, too. Hearing that others value what they are doing or a character quality they demonstrate can be extremely encouraging to anyone.
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Showing appreciation to a boss can strengthen workplace relationships. These practical tips provide thoughtful ways to express gratitude in a professional setting, helping build a positive and respectful work culture.
Jack, agreed! We often forget that those above in our organization need encouragement and appreciation, too! Dr. Paul